Self Love Advice From People Who Know What They’re Talking About

Feb 2, 2021 | Self Love | 0 comments

Self love can mean different things for different people but in a nutshell it basically means prioritising yourself and your own health and happiness. It means accepting and loving yourself for who you are, being compassionate to yourself, practising self care and ensuring that your own needs are met.

I’m no expert on self love. It’s something I’m working on but it’s something that does not come naturally to me. So here are seven excellent pieces of self love advice from people who know far more about it than me.

1. Lizzo


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“Do you want to live? ‘Cause this is who you’re gonna be for the rest of your life. Or are you gonna just have a life of emptiness, self-hatred and self-loathing?”

Lizzo didn’t always have the kickass confidence she does now. At one point she struggled with it as much as the rest of us. But she reached a point where she realised that self love was no longer a choice for her, but an act of survival. A choice between actually living or spending the rest of her life feeling miserable.

Read Lizzo’s interview here

2. Grace Victory


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“Happiness and self-actualisation cannot be found on the outside – it is about the inner you. Life does not begin when you’re thin. Life is happening now. So, stop engaging in behaviours, conversations, and diets that make you feel like you’re not good enough. You are.”

Fatphobia and diet culture are everywhere in our society. We are bombarded with images of how we ‘should’ look and encouraged to make ourselves as small as possible. But the simple fact is, society’s ideal of ‘beauty’ is constantly changing so looking for validation from external sources that we are worthy and good enough is a losing game. The only way to achieve happiness and get to a place of self love is to create it within yourself.

Read Grace’s article here

3. Elizabeth Wassenaar

“Body neutrality is minimizing body negativity; for example, saying to yourself, “I may not feel good about my body, but I will try not to put myself down or make myself feel bad about my body.”

It can be hard to feel truly positive towards your body particularly if, like me, you have spent years scrutinising every last inch of yourself. Instead it can be easier to aim for body neutrality, at least to begin with.

That means focusing on what your body can actually do as opposed to what it looks like. For example, instead of looking in the mirror and criticising the way your legs look, think about how they are able to walk and swim and carry you through life.

If you struggle to say or think anything positive about your body at all then at least try to avoid saying anything negative.

Read more about body neutrality here

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4. Iskra Lawrence


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“I listen to my body and mind and try to figure out what it needs. You almost need to have a little emergency SOS pack of things that you know will make you feel better, like if you take yourself out of a certain situation, or know if you need to be off your phone for the next 24 hours – little self-care go-tos that you can whip out when you’re feeling anxious, stressed, fatigued or angry.”

Self care is an essential component of self love. But it’s more than just hot chocolate and bubble baths. It’s about taking the necessary actions to look after your mental and physical health.

Sometimes that means doing the boring, unappealing stuff that you know will make you feel better like going for a run, cooking a nutritious meal or sorting out your finances. Other times it might be taking a bit of time out to sit down with a cup of tea and a good book.

Read the interview with Iskra Lawrence here

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5. Bryony Gordon


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“My skincare routine is my meditation, it’s my ‘me-time’. You don’t have to be standing on your head.”

Let’s be honest, no one aside from the odd Instagram influencer, has the time or inclination to wake at 5am and indulge in a long morning routine of yoga, meditation, journalling and smoothie drinking before they start the day.

For most of us, self care can be hard to fit into the day and is often one of the first things to slip when we are short on time. Bryony Gordon, a busy working mum, instead recommends taking small self care moments throughout the day.

Read more of the interview with Bryony Gordon here

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6. Katie Piper


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“Being different is a wonderful thing, I wish more people embraced that. It took a long time for me to accept my appearance, but I’m so much more than just my appearance. I’m a mum, a wife, a friend, a daughter, a sister, a businesswoman and a philanthropist.”

Your appearance is just one aspect of yourself. After an acid attack in 2008 it took Katie Piper a long time to accept her appearance, but she eventually got to a place where she embraced being different. It’s important to recognise all the different parts of yourself and all the amazing things that you actually do.

Read the full interview with Katie Piper here

7. Beyoncé


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“When I’m not feeling my best I ask myself, ‘What are you gonna do about it?’ I use the negativity to fuel the transformation into a better me.”

There has to be an element of personal responsibility in your quest for self love. It’s all too easy to just sit back and feel victimised and expect other people to make you feel good about yourself. But in the end, it needs to come from you. In order to get to a stage where you really feel self love, you need to make the necessary changes to get there.

Read the full interview with Beyoncé here

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